Monday, March 5, 2018
6 KEY THINGS TO LOOK OUT FOR WHEN YOU SET A GOAL
Wecome to my third post on this series on goals. Today, I
want to talk more about resistance that can come up when we set a goal. And so many times, we are not even conscious
of the many layers of resistance. If we
don’t work with our resistance, it will stop us from taking action. But if we know what our resistance may be, we
can be on the look out for it and work with it when it arises.
Ready to feel like your outrageous goal is actually POSSIBLE??
Ready to feel like your outrageous goal is actually POSSIBLE??
In my last post, I talked about goals and how important they are and that we often don’t set them because we don’t want to feel our resistance to our goals—the negative thoughts, the negative feelings. Today I’m going to show you a simple and effective technique that can help you shift your
resistance to your goals. It’s kinda weird, and when I first heard about it, honestly, I thought it was flakey, woo woo, too out there and pretty much dismissed it. I was a total skeptic. But it kept circling back around to me and through people I really respected, so I decided to give it a chance and was blown away with the results that I saw in my own life and then again later through using it with clients. And since then, I’ve also seen the increasing body of research about it, which really makes it
much more credible. So, I invite you to just ask your inner skeptic to let you be open, at least enough to try this little exercise and see what happens for you.
resistance to your goals. It’s kinda weird, and when I first heard about it, honestly, I thought it was flakey, woo woo, too out there and pretty much dismissed it. I was a total skeptic. But it kept circling back around to me and through people I really respected, so I decided to give it a chance and was blown away with the results that I saw in my own life and then again later through using it with clients. And since then, I’ve also seen the increasing body of research about it, which really makes it
much more credible. So, I invite you to just ask your inner skeptic to let you be open, at least enough to try this little exercise and see what happens for you.
The technique is called Emotional Freedom Technique, often just referred to as EFT or Tapping because we are going to actually be tapping on acupuncture points on our body. Tapping is a mind body tool that helps turn down the stress response in the body. It calms the nervous system, calms the flight or fight response, giving us more access to our prefrontal cortex, the part of our brain that we need for creative problem solving, complex thinking, inspiration, etc. And if you’re interested in
learning more, there’s a ton of information on how to tap and how it works. I’m not going to go into that. We’re just going to do it to give you an experience of it.
So just follow along the best you can. The points are important, so make sure you’re doing the best you can to tap where I’m tapping. Tap where I’m tapping and repeat the words that I’m saying.
learning more, there’s a ton of information on how to tap and how it works. I’m not going to go into that. We’re just going to do it to give you an experience of it.
So just follow along the best you can. The points are important, so make sure you’re doing the best you can to tap where I’m tapping. Tap where I’m tapping and repeat the words that I’m saying.
Use this video to help you feel like your goal is more possible! Make sure you tap along!
One of the biggest mistakes people make around money
One of the biggest mistakes we make around our money
One of the biggest mistakes we make around our money is not setting an income goal! Most of us know that setting goals is really important. So why wouldn’t we do it more often? Most people don’t want to set a goal, because the minute we set an income goal, our resistance rises up saying things like, “You could never do that!,” “You’re not good enough!,” “That’s impossible!,” “In this field, are
you crazy?” Who wants to hear all that negativity?? No wonder we don’t set goals!
you crazy?” Who wants to hear all that negativity?? No wonder we don’t set goals!
In this video, I walk you through an exercise of setting a goal and seeing what resistance rises up. Seeing our resistance is actually a map to our success, because once we know what it is we can work with it!
So, just notice what happens inside you when I say this simple statement-- I want you to take a moment to set a monthly income goal. Just pause and notice what happens in your body when I say that? What thoughts come up? You might have a thought that say, “I don’t wanna!! Or you can’t make me!” Or some people might turn off this video at that point. So we can just be aware of and just honor how hard this can be for some of us!
But if you’re still with me, YAY! And I do want us to take a moment to set a monthly income goal.
I like to look at monthly goals because sometimes we can be a little detached from an annual income, but most of us know our monthly expenses and so it can feel a little more concrete. So, think about your monthly expenses and bills, and add in an extra $500-1000 a month to spend as you’d like, and an extra $500-$1000 to put into savings each month. So once you have your number, just look at it, and notice how you feel. What do you notice in your body when you look at that number? What thoughts come up? Write down any thoughts that come up around that number. A lot
of times people have thoughts like, That’s impossible. I could never make that happen. That would
just be too much work. I don’t deserve it. People like me don’t earn that muchmoney. Now, if you didn’t have much resistance to that goal, that’s great. In this exercise we are looking for any inner resistance, so if you didn’t feel resistance, maybe you don’t have any but maybe your goal isn’t big enough. So try double the income goal number. So if it was $8000, make it $16,000 and then
notice your resistance to that.
I like to look at monthly goals because sometimes we can be a little detached from an annual income, but most of us know our monthly expenses and so it can feel a little more concrete. So, think about your monthly expenses and bills, and add in an extra $500-1000 a month to spend as you’d like, and an extra $500-$1000 to put into savings each month. So once you have your number, just look at it, and notice how you feel. What do you notice in your body when you look at that number? What thoughts come up? Write down any thoughts that come up around that number. A lot
of times people have thoughts like, That’s impossible. I could never make that happen. That would
just be too much work. I don’t deserve it. People like me don’t earn that muchmoney. Now, if you didn’t have much resistance to that goal, that’s great. In this exercise we are looking for any inner resistance, so if you didn’t feel resistance, maybe you don’t have any but maybe your goal isn’t big enough. So try double the income goal number. So if it was $8000, make it $16,000 and then
notice your resistance to that.
Here's one of the reasons why goal setting is so important. Did you know that even if you don’t set a goal, you still have a goal?? Most people don’t realize that, but we actually have a subconscious
DEFAULT goal. Our current reality is our default goal. We are earning exactly what we believe we are capable and deserving of earning. If we are not happy with our default goal or our current earning, we need to set a big goal and work on shifting the resistance we have to it.
DEFAULT goal. Our current reality is our default goal. We are earning exactly what we believe we are capable and deserving of earning. If we are not happy with our default goal or our current earning, we need to set a big goal and work on shifting the resistance we have to it.
When we have a goal, our mind will see our goal as a puzzle to solve and start to delivering ideas and seeing possibilities to help meet our goal. If our goal is $30,000, we will have $30,000 ideas. If our goal is $100,000, we will have $100,000 ideas. If our goal is $200,000, well, you get the idea... So what kind of goal do you want? Do you want to stay at your current reality or are you ready for something bigger and bolder?
In my next post, I’m going to share with you a very simple but very effective technique you can use to start shifting your negative thinking about your goal. And using this technique., I’m going to walk you through an exercise that will actually help you believe your goal is more possible.
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